"They finally got it through my head not to run my mouth so when y'all talk about you know who I donno what y'all talking 'bout"
lol.. I love that song! esp Andre 3000's part...
Anyways, this aint bout music... This supposed to be my progress report, right? Today went well, we thank God. Could have been better, but I wont beat myself up too much about it. Was crazy tired (maybe cos I aint slept properly in a bit) and i dont think i will until Friday *sigh* the Lord is my strength) I did eat today.. Maybe a little more that i woulda liked.. (i would have like to have eaten nothing... so you get the idea..lol) and worked out a little bit... not as much as I would have liked... I kinda overslept after i got home.. and it was too late to go to the gym after i woke up... that really made me sad for a minute.. but i'll be fine... :(
So yea, thats the progress report for today... Don't think I will be eating tomorrow though.. Like my 'common sense' is telling me that not eating is not the way forward... but another part of me is telling me that it is... donno which one to listen to... well confused... Anyways.. Gotta go now.. Wish me luck on not eating tomorrow..
ps: I know i was crazy upset over the weekend over something that happened... But like now, i'm good, i realized that i was focusing too much on the negative and overlooking the positive.. a couple of really good things happened too. Anyways.. that was just a random addition.. Gotta go now.. Bye!!!
Okay, so today is Sunday, right? And like I went to church, right?lol. I actually like going to church.. Cos sometimes, even though I feel like it's...yea..(lol) Every time I go I feel like God is talking to me..*blankstare*..lol
Well, I concluded that or should I say realized that while I'm here thinking about how my workout life sucks and i'm focusing on other things that aren't really relevant, I haven't really done anything to better myself spiritually.. So yea, I gotta work on that..lol.. A lil' something for y'all to think about on a beautiful Sunday afternoon.. :) y'all can thank me later..(act like my name is Drake or something..haha!) So yea, that's some grown folk ish...lol.. haven't really said nothing on that in a bit. I would have talked more about it.. but I aint no preacher..lol
But yea... Day 1... went well.. worked out for a bit :) oh, and I decided that the not eating thing wasn't the way forward. I was sick for most of last week, and in my heart of hearts I know it was cos i wasn't eating right. Plus i also know that not eating is not exactly the best way to lose weight.. so yea, i scraped that from the list.. and made myself eat, even though i didn't really feel like it. So yea, that's my daily update.. Hopefully I'll keep up the good work and not dismount the horsie (lol) again..
Gotta love and leave y'all now.. I'm reading this book for class.. And let's just say that this book...lol... well, it can be applied to both the 'grown' and 'sexy' aspects of this blog.. most especially if you take the last letter away from one of them words.. i'll let you figure out which word..lol.. the book is on some deep shit... I'll see how it goes, and maybe i'll be nice and share some of the information contained in the book on here..haha. anyways.. i feel like i'm rambling now.. so yea, another update or should i say progress report coming up tomorrow. ciao :)
Lol.. so i havent been on here in a minute... My bad... been busy with school.. life.. same old song..*sigh*... I had written a post previously... but 'someone' read it the wrong way.. so i kinda had to take it off.... and then i started writing another one earlier today.. cos i had A LOT on my mind... but i decided not to put it on here anymore.. cos it was kinda #deeeeeeep.. and like i was about to put an asshole on blast.. but decided to chill on that... for now.. and it was one of them motherfuckers too... whoosahhh.. you shoulda talked to me like 2 hours ago... i was on a whole 'nother tip.. like 'fuck em niggas, i dont give a damn bout these niggas'.. *Weezy voice*.. but like i talked to someone who i know like cares about me and he made me feel better... and like one of my best best (yea, said that twice-lol) friends from like high/secondary school holla'd at me like just now... and like i aint talk to him in a minute.. so yea, that kinda lifted my mood a little... just a little bit though...
I still feel like crap. :( last night was like, the worst night i've had in agesssss!!! like i really dont get the way some people's brains operate... like where they do that at... honestly.. but like i said, i shall not delve into that... not here.. and not just yet... maybe later.. just maybe... cos the post i wrote on it... ooooh chil'... *deep breath*....
Anywayyyysssss! I kinda have a long day ahead of me... one i was kinda looking forward to until last night which yea... not gonna describe it again.. but yea... I should like do something like workout now before i go... but like... i dont feel like moving.... I just want to lay in my bed all day... and cuddle with Tyrese...(thats my 'cuddly'..*blankstare*) haha!! okay... enough of that 'emosh' display.. but you get the picture. I'm pissed as *!**$%@$!$!... But yea... I should work out, cos i feel like i gained 50 pounds, when i needed to have lost like 100pounds.. so now i need to lose like 150pounds in like 4 weeks.. because i signed up for this thing...
But like my workout life has been.... lets just say its not what it was... I mean, i have school and work and all that.. but like that has always been there.. I always found a way.. I always found time.. But lately... I've been slippin' son... I dont know why. I'm supposed to be getting stronger... Not lazier... my body is supposed to be getting harder and sexier too!!! ughhh!!! i'm so mad at my self right now.. Not gonna eat for a week!! no jokes.. And working out used to be like my primary tension reliever too.. (it used to be writing.. but i stopped that.. got in trouble for that..long story...) but like yea.... i think i'm going to cry now...lol.. and i think like not working out is what has made me like things get to me more... damn.. gotta fix that, huh...?
*sigh* anyways... (yea, i said that again.... what?!lol) so what i fell off for a minute... i'm bout to climb back on top that horsie...lol.. and for the first week i shall chronicle my journey (on the horsie..lol) everyday... yup.. i'm making a commitment to blog everyday (about my 'diet' *blankstare* and exercise routine) for 7 consecutive days... haha.. sounds like jokes to me right now.. but i shall.. and may be i shall also input a little bit of 'juicy' info that i pick up along the way... lolzers (yup, i said that too... what?!)haha... okay... i would say that the fact that my blood sugar is low, and my brain aint getting enough sugar/glucose, is the reason i'm chatting (or should i say typing) nonsense... but like... haha.. yea.. I just ate.. and I just ate A LOT too.. (i do that sometimes when i'm mad/stressed/angry-bad, i know but oh well.. we all have our weaknesses/flaws right? i'm bout to fix that one though.. watch me)
But yea.. like i said, i've got a looooooong day ahead of me... I need to start getting ready... both physically and mentally. plus i feel like i've 'shared' too much... and someone (just someone) might think i'm crazy *shrugs* oh well.. i would say i don't care.. but i actually kinda do.. but then again i can only be me... so yea... gotta love and leave y'all... for now.. will be back tomorrow with updates...haha.. hopefully... (remember.. the diet/exercise thing..?) but yea.. 7 days.. hope y'all dont get tired of me...
deuces...
~*~the forever and ever and ever sexy (and maybe a tad bit too random)~*~
Okay, so i've been gone for a minute (almost a month.. not too bad this time..lol) A LOT has happened since my last post... so much so that it seems like the last one was written eons ago...smh. I wish i could say most of what transpired has been 'good' but yea.. that would be a lie.. and i'm tryna live right so yea.. haha.. Hasn't been all bad though.. Definately learned a lot about myself and life in general.. so i can't complain much.. :)
anyways... done with the intro and all that... I have not really got anything in particular to write about... okay, i lie.. I do have a lot on my mind (excess baggage kinda 'lot'..lol) but i don't know where to start or if i'm even ready to 'share'... *shrugs*.. so yea.. once again i shall go on about 'nothing' :-D.. Now, some may ask "Is it by force for her to blog, she aint got nothing to say.. why she gotta write though?" well yea, it's by force!! 'Fi mi le'.. I think its kinda lame to have a blog and not update it regularily.. even if people don't read it..lol.. :-P (I DO hope people do read this though.. PLEASE read my blog.. pretty please.. :-D lol)
This post is dedicated to Music... Haven't done a proper music post in a while.. So yea, i think one is in order.. Plus music helps take my mind off things and helps elevate my mood sometimes (psych talk).. I can get high of music.. *sigh* :) lol. Going to put the top 5 most requested (lol) or played songs on my ipod.. In no particular order other than one must come before the other.. (i've always wanted to say that..haha) Here goes!
1. AIN'T THINKING ABOUT YOU - Chris Brown & Tyga
"I just wanna have a good time,
keep you out my mind,
find a little shawty I like.."
my fav. line from the song... that and,
"but it's alright, it's okay
my blackberry's filled with
a whole bunch of women.."
and...
"Used to be you that I liked,
but I'm gonna do what I like
tonight.."
Let's just say I love the whole song..hehe.. And Tyga is actually a decent lyricist.. He finally made me a fan.. that's not an easy feat to accomplish..
It's so ironic too, or should i say strange because if you know me, you know I'm not a CB fan.. But I won't lie.. I'm quite feeling his new cd/mixtape.. It's like homeboy is tryna win my heart back... He can't though.. Cos I'm married to Ri-Ri. Me and Chris will just have to be friends... *sigh*
#NowOnToSongNumberTwo
2. ALL I WANT IS YOU- Miguel & J. Cole
"At best all they do is distract me but now,
deep down, when I face it, all I want is you.."
Another song i'm in love with atm... I don't know why.. Cos the 'story-line' is kinda um... well, dumb. I mean, he wants her now that she's gone.. Implying that she was once there.. with him.. and then he fucked shit up.. And now she's just supposed to just come back... Haha.. jokes.
"Cos they don't smile or smell like you,
cos they don't make me laugh, or even cook like you
girl they don't photograph.. nah they don't sex like you
let's face it, i can't replace it..
all i want is you.."
lol. How cute... You live and you learn though.. Next time don't do such, you hear. Don't let her go..haha. Still love the song.. been listening to it non-stop for a couple of weeks now... and it doesn't look like i'm gonna get tired of it any time soon...
#songnumberthree...
3. SINGLE - Lil' Wayne
"And I aint tripping on nothing,
I'm sipping on something..
and my homeboy say he got a bad
bitch for me tonight.." ;-)
Mehn Weezy sounds mad 'breezy' on that one..haha.. Sound like he on cloud 9... Especially right before he goes, "Polo T-shirt, Polo drawers".. haha.. Listen to it well.. sounds like he took a puff right before..lol.. I don't blame him.. the beat/backing track (think that's what its called..no?) sounds like one of them records that was made to get high to... Don't ask me how I know.. I heard people talk. But yea.. I love that song.. it's mad chilled...
"Put your hands up if you're single for the night.." - so after the night what happens though?smh.. Anyways.. My hand is up... "Yea, I'm single, nigga had to cancel that bitch like nino.." haha
#songnumberfour
4. HOLDING YOU DOWN - Jazmine Sullivan
"Its a shame that you don't care enough to even give me half the love I give to you.."
"I'm ashamed to say that I'm to blame for how you act.. Cos I keep coming back.."
I pray that never happens to me. Amen! lol... On the real though.. then it goes,
"I feel so stupid... foolish 'loving' you this way.."
You should. Dumb broad..haha.. #nodisrespect.. But how you gonna go back to a nigga who aint treat you right? I don't understand.. You know he doing wrong, you know he's trifling and its hard to let go? Really. How..? Why..? Well let me not talk too much.. I'm going to fast and pray that I never find my self in such a situation.. Cos if I do.. hmm.. Let me not talk too much..
"I'll stay cos I love you but I hate that I stay..
you know I won't go that's why you treat me this way..
I wanna be happy though it hurts me so bad
don't know what it is that keeps me coming back.."
Smh at the whole scenario.. If that's what 'love' does, then I don't want. Thanks. I'm not interested.lol.. But then again, it's only a song, right? Shit like that don't happen in real life.. *sideeye*
#andthenfinally
5. LOVE THE WAY YOU LIE - Eminem & Rhianna
Okay, I don't like it. In fact, I HATE being lied to.. I however, like the song.. well, only the hook.. (i'm in love with Rihanna (#nohomo... well maybe a little.. ;) I have no idea what that boy was going on about.. Only heard "next time there will be no next time.." and then something about burning a house down..? Why that dude gotta be so violent though..?smh..
Bonus track... cos i like y'all so much... :-D
GOT YOUR BACK - T.I & Keri Hilson...
"When we're high, when we're low
when I promise I will never let you go
said I got I got I got your back boy.."
"Keep my swagga, keep it looking good for ya
keep it looking hood for ya.."
Awww. I love this song cos it's about love.. lol.. Like the proper love that people should have/want. The kind that makes a little sense. Not dysfunctional love. It's a damn shame that T.I and Tiny just got in trouble (again!-boy, you don't want to learn?smh..) But yea.. The song is hott... I hope I meet someone that makes me like 'feel' the song, if you know what I mean. Anyways I hope my man T.I doesn't have to go away again. and i wish him and Tiny the best.. they actually make quite a cute couple.. Can't hate on them.
Now that i think about it, there's more songs.. like 'I just haven't met you yet'- Michael Bubble; B.M.F - Ricky Rose; 'The man who can not be moved' - The Script; 'Te Amo' - 'Rihanna; Cooler than Me' - Mike Posner; DEUCES!!!!! - Chris Brown and Tyga! i think i need to dedicate that one to a couple motherf*$#!s.. but, nah... I'll let it slide.. I see y'all m.f's though... Don't think I don't.. haha.. It's all love though.. Like really.. lol.. But I should do a post about some m.fs soon.. hmm... lol. We'll see..
Anyways.. I've gotta be out.. need to 'work on my fitness', my gym life's been dulling atm.. tres sad.. i need to fix that asap, cos it's not cool at all.. But I don't know how/what to do anymore.. *sigh* Then I've got school work.. among other things i gotta deal with.. *doublesigh*.. I shall try to write again soon.. Deuces!(lol)
*~the ever sexy~*
.oao.
ps: I hope that y'all 'missed me a little when i was gone'.. *said in Drake voice*lol
shiver-ing, tongue deliver-ing chills up that spine
that ass is mines. skip the wine and the candlelight
no cristal tonight, if it's alright with you we ......"
"The whole, city is mine, prettiest don
I don't like the way P. Diddy did shyne with different lawyers
Why it's mentioned in my rhymes? Fuck it, it's just an intro
Hate it or love it. Like it, bump it or dump it"
LOL.. Y'all probably know where the first one is from.. but the second.. hmm.. I will personally deliver a prize to whoever figures it out.. Nah, scratch that.. Cos there's 'google'.. Anyways.. was listening to them songs and decided to write some of my favorite lines.. SUE ME.. Now to the topic du jour....
Okay.. So wait, you're supposed to forgive and forget.. give second chances.. is it really possible to let ish go when people treat you wrong.. like do you really forget? like really, really? I don't. I remember that ish. I may forgive based on the intention(s) behind the action(s).. but at the end of the day... its difficult to forget, for me anyways. in a way it's a good thing..lol.. (not really, but i'm going to justify myself, damnit!!lol) It's a good thing, because if i do 'forget' (which would be highly unlikely as i remember a lot of things i shouldn't) it simply means that the person is 'dead to me'.. like i would care less about them. loll.. Damn..
The way i work is, when i forgive, i cant help but remember the pain/hurt... but at the same time, i let it go. I use the person's fuck up as a bench mark with which i would compare the persons reformed performance...lol.. (i think i forgot the point i was tryna make)... But yea, I really want to learn to forgive and forget without anything else to it. I need someone to 'teachme'.. Oh well, i'll add that to the list of things i need to learn.
Like to me, the concept of forgetting can be likened to the incidence of a child putting his hand in fire/gets burned or whatever, and then completely forgets about the pain, and does it again.. Wouldn't you call that child dumb or stupid? Or at best mentally challenged or slow? I'm like that child in a way, only I'm wiser (lol).. I get burned.. I'm scared of or avoid fire for a while.. After that while, I may still 'play' with fire, but I'll know that there is a very high likelihood that that jawn will injure me. I think knowing or anticipating makes the pain less.. Because sometimes, the reason it hurts so much is cos you didn't see it coming, so the shock only amplifies the pain..?
Okay... I started talking (or writing) off point again.. I think I need to go now..... Yes, I do realize I haven't written anything in a while (over a month now) and it's cos of this... I get something good to write about.. start writing and then half way through I get lost or stuck.. *sigh* .. oh well. C'est la vie, right? I will overcome.
Okay, so i finally decided to stop procrastinating and work on this diet/fitness post.. Yayy me.. Part of or the main reason I decided to get off my arse and do it was to hopefully motivate myself in the process of writing it (there's a psychological term for this which escapes my conscious thought right now..damn.lol) but yea. Here goes..
It's summer time, the sun is out and its time to bring out them bikinis and skimpy bathing suits. Thing is not every body is summer ready.. Some bodies need a little tweak/work.lol. Sike.. That's bs and a load of crap. If you're tryna lose weight or get ripped, do it for personal/health reasons as opposed to 'its summer, i suppose' flex muscle for beach'.. haha
Basically what i'm going to do, (and i'll let y'all know if it works, cos like i said, i'm trying to change myself for 'health' (lol) reasons too), is watch what i eat (*coughs*) and try to do double time on my workouts. I have a goal, to lose a bunch of weight (say, about 50-60lbs)-lol. And to become well fit in the process.
My 'advice' lol to people tryna do the same thing would be to do cardio 3-5 times a week for 30-45 minutes each time. Cardio could be such exercises as walking/running/jogging or you could take any of the various aerobics classes available to you- those can be fun. Just be consistent. It also helps to do some form of resistance training a couple times a week. For extra 'conditioning' or toning.
On the diet side, cut out simple sugar, and uneccesary fats from the diet. Now, don't go and overdo it by cutting out carbs altogether, because carbs provide the body with energy needed to workout! An engine needs gas to run.. Protein is also extremely important, especially if you're trying to build muscle. You need about 1g of protein/kg of body weight (or if you do your weight in lbs, divide by 2 to get amount of grams of protein needed/day)- lol.. I know I sound like a nutrition geek right now.. But it's good, I should.. took a class on nutrition last semester.. Can't let all that good knowledge go to waste now, can we?.lol.
In conclusion, (lol) losing or gaining weight is all about getting the calorie balance/equation right. If you eat more than you burn, you will gain, if you eat less, you might lose. To maintain weight eat same as you burn. Also if you work with heavy weights frequently you will gain size/muscle (trust me, I know this from personal experience) So it's all about what you want. Decide what you want for your body, come up with a plan and work towards it. You are more than likely going to fuck up at some point. Don't beat yourself up about it, and don't use that as an excuse to quit (avoid the abstinence violation effect).
If you have any questions (lol) hit me up.. You can do so (lol) via twitter/facebook/bbm/email/sms text/telephone call… (haha- damn, i make myself laugh unnecessarily) anyways, yea, fitness is one of the few things that I am passionate about, so it will be a pleasure to answer any questions. Plus if there is anyway you think you could motivate/inspire ME more, please get at me and do so asap!!, it would be greatly appreciated and I would love you unconditionally for it… Because I won't lie, there are times when i don't feel like working out.. even though I know I should. And i can be the worst trash eater too.. Constantly in want of a workout/diet buddy, who would challenge and push me and also be like my sponsor (like in AA..) So yea, hollerrrr!haha
It's world cup season.. and world cup fever is 'catching' everyone..lol.. Even people who hate the sport and are clueless as to what the game is about are hosting viewing parties and tweeting about the game like they could play better..smh.lol! Anyways, yayy! soccer/football (whatever you want to call it), it's bringing the world together (lol) we need more of that.
This post is as random as the last one..lol.. Got a few emails that I thought were quite funny and was feeling nice enough to share... Here goes;
1. This one is titled,
'Advice for your significant other...ignore at your own risk. '
1. Between 11 June and 11 July 2010, you should read the sports section of the newspaper so that you are aware of what is going on regarding the World of Soccer, and that way you will be able to join in the conversations. If you fail to do this, then you will be looked at in a bad way, or you will be totally ignored. DO NOT complain about not receiving any attention.
2. During the World Cup, the television is mine, at all times, without any exceptions. If you even take a glimpse of the remote control, you will lose it (your eye).
3. If you have to pass by in front of the TV during a game, I don't mind, as long as you do it crawling on the floor and without distracting me.
4. During the games I will be blind, deaf and mute, unless I require a refill of my drink or something to eat. You are out of your mind if you expect me to listen to you, open the door, answer the telephone, or pick up the baby that just fell on the floor....It won't happen.
5. It would be a good idea for you to keep at least 2 six packs in the fridge at all times, as well as plenty of things to nibble on (excluding your body parts), and please do not make any funny faces to my friends when they come over to watch the games. In return, you will be allowed to use the TV between 12am and 6am, unless they replay a good game that I missed during the day.
6. Please, please, please!! If you see me upset because one of my team is losing, DO NOT say "get over it, it's only a game", or "don't worry, they'll win next time". If you say these things, you will only make me angrier and I will love you less. Remember, you will never ever know more about football than me and your so called "words of encouragement" will only lead to a break up or divorce.
7. You are welcome to sit with me to watch one game and you can talk to me during halftime but only when the commercials are on, and only if the half time scores is pleasing me. In addition, please note I am saying "one" game; hence do not use the World Cup as a nice cheesy excuse to "spend time together". 8. The replays of the goals are very important. I don't care if I have seen them or I haven't seen them, I want to see them again, Many times.
9. Tell your friends NOT to have any babies, or any other child related parties or gatherings that requires my attendance because: a) I will not go, b) I will not go, and c) I will not go.
10. But, if a friend of mine invites us to his house on a Sunday to watch a game, we will be there in a flash.
11. The daily World Cup highlights show on TV every night is just as important as the games themselves. Do not even think about saying "but you have already seen this...why don't you change the channel to something we can all watch?" because, the reply will be, "Refer to Rule #2 of this list".
12. And finally, please save your expressions such as "Thank God the World Cup is only every 4 years". I am immune to these words, because before and after this comes the Champions League,Premier League, Super 14, Spanish League, KPL, Grand Prix, Tri Nations, hell, even WrestleMania, etc.
P/S
By the way if you get stuck on the road call 911 or RAPID RESPONSE SQUAD cos I won’t pick my phone.
Ladies, follow these rules and I guarantee the love that ur significant other has for you will skyrocket within a month lol. Take advice from an crazed football fine like myself ;-) hehehe
Yea, right.. if you like call yourself my boyfriend and ignore your phone when i call/txt/bbm because the game was on... or say I can't watch any of my shows.. And we'll see what happens... Nonsense..lol
The second is a video dubbed 'The Worst Miss of the World Cup', and this miss was wonderfully performed by none other than one of Nigeria's finest, Yakubu Aiyegbeni, who apparently plays for Chelsea.. Hmm... Anyways, here's a video of his spectacular gaffe, that prevented Nigeria from going through to the next round and also cost the players their proposed $30,000 bonuses.. Shame on you Yakubu! Shame.. *sigh* then again, he wasn't the only player on the team, was he?
ps: the 'soundtrack' to the clip may get on your nerves (i think it's funny) so you may wanna turn the sound low/off...
Oh and did you see his face after the miss?? Hilarious.. Haha. I wonder what was running through his mind, and what I wanna know is how much he got paid by the other team to screw Nigeria up like that..lol. I'm not saying I could have done a better job (even though I'm sure i could..) but then again, I'm not getting paid to do so. And his fuck up was so incredible (lol) that the non-Nigerian coach had to put his hands on his head, classic 9ja style..lol.. I love soccer.
One more thing... special #shoutout to the homie, Vincent Enyeama.. You go boyy! (said in Martin Voice) it woulda been cool if he had stopped one or both of South Korea's goals yesterday (lol) but still he more than did well and deserves a medal/award for his overall performance which was nothing short of outstanding...
Oh (lol) and is it just me, or is this year's world cup is all kinds of strange? Like for instance France is out, due to some silly high-school female kinda drama (displayed by grown-ass men..smh), England's performance, nothing to write home about.. USA surprisingly doing well (another #shoutout to Oguchi!! the hottest hottie on the team) I think it's just luck though..lol.. And then Portugal's 7-0 win against N. Korea..haha.. Epic. How you gonna lose 7-0 in the world cup? Com'on boys.. (btw Ronaldo..*sigh*.. he can get it!)
My prediction for who get's the cup this year.. either Brazil or Argentina. I hope it's Brazil.. Even though Maradona makes me laugh everytime he comes on tv..lol
Anyways.. This was one long-ass 'random' post, huh.. I need to go now.. I know I'm supposed to have put up a post about working out and dieting, but my minds been kinda confused about them topics lately, so it's kinda hard for me to come up with something that makes sense.. But I will soon snap out of it, and get back on top of my gym game.. :-)
Hmmm... This is weird... I've got like a million and one things on my mind right now.. but still, I'm unable to come up with a topic to blog about... sad, very sad.. But oh well, i shall ramble on and talk about everything and nothing at the same time (it's a skill i have mastered)lol.
Okay first of, i'm going to talk about how there's too many 'wo-wo' guys now. Asin, they did nt try at all... Thank God I'm not looking for anyone atm.. cos i'd probably be frustrated as a mug...lol
Second, I'm going to ask/pose this question... why do some ugly as shit people think they have the audacity to feel/act fresh... I know they say, 'I think therefore I am'.. well, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and no matter how much YOU think you're attractive, if other people do not agree or think the same way..lol.. Let me tell you a secret, be humble, even if you as foine as Tyrese or Tyson, don't feel like everyone has to complement your swagg..lol.. #random
Then I shall talk about how it's almost as if monogamy is nothing but a myth these days, and it's almost as if people are required/expected to be unfaithful.smh.. And how I was talking bout how it would be difficult for me to be a marriage counselor right now, cos when people come to me, i'd go, "I'm so sorry for your distress. However I do know a really good divorce lawyer..."lol.. Which is really bad, because like i think divorce is wrong, very wrong, on every level.. but i donno..lol.. anyways,, #ontothenextparagraph..lol
I think I tweet too much and i'm gonna 'tweet' a few lines from a past TT (trending topic-lol) '#iconfess'..
1. #iconfess i kinda suck at relationships...lol.. working on that though.. :-)
2. #iconfess i'm not a naturally nice person.. have/had to work at it..
3. #iconfess i actually like being by myself... and get irritated when i have to be around people i dont like for too long (i.e for more than 5 minutes)
4. #iconfess sometimes i get 'drawn' to some people, and want them to be around me 24/7 and when they aint, i miss them like ish.. :-(
5. #iconfess i make mistakes like all the time.. but in a way, i think people learn better by making mistakes and getting burned so to say.. still, i'm earnestly working on becoming the best version of me..
6. #iconfess that i hate talking.. but at the same time i hate silence! i love it when people talk to me.. :-)
and last but not least,
7. #iconfess that half the time i'm talking, i have no idea what i'm going on about..haha
anyways, i'm tired of rambling.. i'm gonna put two songs i'm really feeling (lol) at the moment; Usher's there goes my baby.. Love that song. And Gyptian's Hold Yuh.. that song makes me wish i knew how to dance properly.. *sigh*.. have to go now.. gots shits to sort out.. (mostly get something to eat.lol) and things to do... It's gonna be a long day.. :-)
~the increasingly sexy~
o.a.o
ps: I know i'm supposed to have written a post about working out... it's long (and i'm lazy).. promise to put one up today/tomorrow.
This is a question I ask myself daily and I am now posing to you. When oh when, daughters of Zion, are you going to stop settling and start making choices? When I say choices, I mean active choices that reflect what you want and not what you think you can do ok wit. Key word here is OK How many people wanna do just OK in life? You just wanna do OK, not great?? Didn’t think so. So why on God’s green earth do you go about making OK choices? Can you please be proactive about your own life? I mean, I mean even if you don’t care about other people can you please care about yourself???
What exactly is she on about? , You ask. Well, my question is why do women settle? I’ve been asking myself this question for about a week now. And it just won’t leave me, no mater how hard I try to suppress it so I decided to devote some time to address it.
If you have a man that is not who/what you want, can you please dump him?? Like right now, for real. Can you just save us all the trouble? By us I mean the entire body of individuals who call themselves women on the face of this earth. If he doesn’t make you happy now, why do you think he will make you happy later on?? A smart woman once said about shopping that the store is where you like it best. Please women, open your eyes and brains and please realize that the store is synonymous to the relationship you’re in now if you’re not already hitched. Anybody who makes you cry yourself to sleep or puts you in one of those moods that gives you that stank attitude you usually put on for no damn reason is not worth it. Why? Because I believe that women should stop cutting men some slack like they are some extinct creature that needs to be preserved. A simple tip for you: Treat your ‘man’ (boyfriend, FB, FWB, jump-off, fiancé e.t.c or whatever it is you call him, all na the same) like you would one of your friends. Extend the same respect to him and expect the same back and see what changes. I doubt any of you ladies will keep a friend who makes you cry or makes you feel like crap close to you. Some of you would avoid said friend like the plague (If you don’t, you need some one-on-one time with my friend Oyinwa, she’ll shrink you till you’re normal once again). So why oh why do these male appendages get privileges, sometimes even without proving themselves? Then you wonder why you’re always getting hurt…. KMT
In the words of another one of my friends, it’s because women are always doing the most. What does it mean to do the most? Doing the most means you are excessively invested in something to the point where you begin to embarrass yourself (caveat: for those of you who still have some shame left; Lord knows many ladies can’t even pretend to have any left). When you do the most, may I just point out to you that you end up looking damned THIRSTY! (I will not go into what the specifics of being ‘thirsty’ are today. That will be addressed on a different day and through a different medium. When will you ladies start reading the writings that have been on the wall since the Old Testament? When will the scales fall from your eyes? When will you start actively making choices instead of just settling and going with the flow? Clearly, a man who is not as reliable as one of your friends should be sacked as soon as possible. As a human being myself (I’m actually not a Martian, contrary to popular belief), I don’t believe in setting impossible standards for guys. Not because my standards aren’t high. But because one fine day just like this one, I realized that many men don’t even pass the base standards we have when we decide who will be our friends or who will be a mere acquaintance; why then bother my pretty head trying to think up new hurdles for a dog that cant seem to learn old tricks (or more aptly, cant even learn the warm-up routine?) It’s as simple as that, no need to get your panties in a wad trying to ‘test’ your man.
This naturally leads to the question of respect. Anyone with a brain in his or her skulls knows that whatever you cannot live with you should never condone. If there are things bothering you now, can you please cut yourself loose like right now?? Someone who knows they can get away with doing bad by you needs to go HOME. Like right now too. Where is it written that you need to accommodate foolwangery and settle for bullshit??? Can you please take some action and boot the dude?? When your gut tells you that you’re being disrespected/taken for granted, you probably are. So can you move on please?? Some common examples include but are not limited to: a) Said ‘man’ is not really over his ex (this one should be a no-brainer but, cough-cough with the kind of thirst some girls are exhibiting nowadays…..) b) Said ‘man’ does not attempt to understand/respect how you feel about certain issues c) Said ‘man’ does not attempt to correct errant behavior when he does bad by you but expects to just roll into motion like nothing happened. E.t.c, e.t.c
Note that I do not have a solution/ trick that solves any of these issues. I just know that if any of the above scenarios looks anything like yours, you do NOT have a man, so go ahead and live your life as though you were SINGLE. In actual fact, you probably are already on the way there so get some practice, ok. I’m not recommending bar/bed-hopping or any ungodly behavior; what I’m saying rather is that you should begin to make choices that will make you happy. Take charge of your own damn life and body, sack the losing bastard and reward yourself. When you are done with all of this, you will find that you are not so damn thirsty anymore (at least I’d like to hope). And this will be a good thing because thirsty is/was never a good place to be.
"Now, I aint saying she a gold-digger, but she aint messing with no broke niggas..."lol
This post is dedicated (lol) to a dear and special friend of mines (*blushes*) and sweetheart.. who kinda suggested it as a topic when i told him i was stuck and needed something to write about.. So here goes..
It's gonna be a tad difficult for me to write about this whole 'gold-digging' business, not because I am a gold digger (aww, hell naw, I am very grateful to God, that I got my own.. It is not by my power nor my might or anything I did, but by the Spirit, Favor and Grace of God.. :-) okay, back to the topic. It'll be hard, cos it kinda makes sense for girls to go after the guys who live the lavish life-style, cos think about it, who doesn't want that..lol.
I'm going to try and write about this from like both sides, i.e. from both a male and female perspective, but once again it will be a little difficult for me to do so.
For one, I don't see too many of these guys who are 'flossing' and getting all the girls complaining much.. I mean, that's partly why they're flaunting their money in the first place, to 'collect' girls/babes (lol).. Like all the high profile guys.. Politicians, Athletes, Wall Street dudes, Musicians and such they're all in it to get it so to say.. And if anyone of them should come to me and tell me that they actually believe that these tricks/heifers/hoes really do care about them or would talk to them if they had no 'loot'.. I would refer them to the nearest psychiatric hospital.. To be frank and honest, material possessions attract attention (whether wanted or not), from both sexes..
Now, I am NOT saying that guys (or girls, cos there are male gold-diggers, believe me, i have seen a few in my time..lol) shouldn't aspire to do great things, drive the fanciest cars or live in the biggest mansions... No, don't let anyone/situation stifle your dreams, BUT y'all should be able to filter and funnel the attention.. Know who loves you for you, and who loves you for what you got, and relate to each accordingly.
On the other hand, there's guys saying that girls only go after the lavish guys... and that the guys who are chilling and not so out there are getting the short end of the stick.. That is true in part, but see, these dude should see this as a good thing, cos I'm telling you, y'all don't want these type of girls.. trust me. These girls are 'dangerous'.. You know, like the Kardinal Offishal and Akon song..lol. They will suck a n!$$@ dry.. and not in the way he'd like..lmao!! Seriously though. They are evil.
I know I said I was going to try and write this from both sides.. and I take great pride in the fact that for the most part, I think very much like a guy.. But with this gold-digging business, it's kinda hard for me to..lol.. because I can't hate on the girls, it's not their fault.. It's like the way that flies are attracted to light.. they can't help it.. Its up to the guys to swat them away.. thing is most guys are weak.. thats the reason they will say it is 'natural' for a man to cheat? I'm like wth..? Why would it me more natural for a he than a she.. but lemme me get off that, less I digress.. That issue will be addressed in another post..
So yea, gold digging is BAD.. Ladies, don't do it. Fella's don't buy into it.. and if you do.. Tough luck.. You get what you deserve.. Come to me when you need therapy to deal with the emotional trauma/stress that comes with it.. and if you need a divorce counselor, I'm also available..haha. Okay, I'll be nice. I know it's not always peoples fault.. Like sometimes it's like the 'condition wey make the crayfish bend' (lol-that expression cracks me up) kinda situation.. so if it happens to anyone.. come and talk to me.. i'll lend you my shoulder to cry on..lol..
Okay, I kinda ran out of things to say on the topic.. and my good friend *coughs* is m.i.a, so I can't really ask him for his input.. But if i think of anything else.. I'll definitely do a follow up post.. I'm partly stuck cos was thinking about going to the gym.. (missed my yoga class cos I was writing this..lol.. so I hope y'all appreciate it!!)
Kk, I've got to go like NOW... gotta go workout and stuff.. of which, my next post might be about that.. like working out and living a healthy life-style.. taking a couple classes related to that, and i'm kinda obsessed with it atm.. lol. hope i stay that way.. anyways.. i'll definately be putting something up tomorrow. BYE!
...the fit and sexy...
.oao.
ps: here's a couple songs/video's (one from a female's point of veiw, and another from a males.. Enjoy.. :-)
