"never explain yourself to anyone, because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person who dislikes you wont believe it"...
That's so true. Like I've been gone for a hot minute, not necessarily for lack of material, but because I've been trying to sort stuff out... Plus I'm real busy these days... My 'free time' consists of me trying to catch up on stuff (sleep being being at the top of my list of 'stuff') and sometimes the last thing I need is someone who's supposed to be a 'friend' in my ear, complaining about or criticizing me or something I did or didn't do.. Like for real, before you criticize, take a second to think where this person is coming from... Ask how their day has been, what they've been going through. Fair enough, everyone goes through stuff at some point, some more than others... As a friend or altogether decent human being you should at least inquire... in the very least.. and if that is too much, then leave the person alone... your negative input is definitely not needed. And when you ask, the person may or may not open up.. thats not whats important. What's important is letting that person know that you care (once again, it is not by force to care, if you don't back the hell off) Sometimes that's all a person needs... Not a long, drawn out and unnecessary lecture/confrontation... It is important to bear in mind that sometimes they may not want your 'advice' at that point in time, so kindly keep your opinions to yourself.. Just let them know you care (if you do) thats all.lol
Anyways... Another quote I saw a couple days ago went something like, 'expecting the world to be nice to you because you're a good person is like expecting a lion not to eat you because you're vegetarian' (don't remember the quote verbatim, but you get my drift...) This struck a chord, not just because I'm vegetarian (lol), but because I used to be that girl who expected everyone to be nice and polite because she was.. I used to go 'it's not fair, why should he/she do that when I wouldn't do this' or 'I would never do that to someone else, its not fair!'. I've since learned relationships and human beings are seldom ever fair, and the more 'good' you are, the more bullshit you should expect from people. Its like the nicer you are, the more people try to take the piss... Like you give them an inch, and they try to take the whole m-fing backyard...Now I coulda been like it's time to go back to 'oao bitch mode' (lol) (sometimes i miss the bitchy version of oao..) But but I'm like, Imma do me regardless... Won't change who I've because some dumb f#$ks don't know how to act. I'll keep on keeping on.. Not saying I'm perfect yet, but I'll keep on working on being the best version of me I can be in any given situation. But yo... don't take that to think I'm a pushover...lol. It's funny when people think I'm a punk cos I'm soft spoken or can be a tad too emotional at times...lol. The look on people's faces when I 'fight back'... *priceless* I crack up just thinking about it..lol
So yea... haha. I'm done.. Once again I feel like I've shared way too much in this post. Oh well, *shrugs*. The take home message/moral of the story, however, is be considerate before you come down on someone else.. Just think for a second... Its all about 'human relations'lol. Have a nice day.
~the ever so sexy~
oao
ps: sorry my first post this year wasn't as.... well 'nice'.. Will try to make up for it in the next post, which should be by the end of this week... Coming to think of it... I wonder if anyone still reads this... Cos the postings are so sporadic.. oh well... :) Love you (whoever still reads this mwahh :* (no homo if you're female ;))
